and then there's this https://sporks.space/2021/02/02/mastodon-really-is-crumbling-and-it-will-only-get-worse/
Seems my biggest issue is not the technology, but just getting people involved, maybe this will help https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9bxcNLTd1pI&feature=youtu.be
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